Dear Me,
Hi, I'm your 31 year old self, it's 31 December 2009. You won't believe what the next ten years holds for you, or how quickly they will pass. Enjoy them, you won't get them back.
The "naughties" won't only be a decade of change for you, it will also be a time when the world will change forever. The word "terrorism" will gain a whole new meaning and the biggest terrorist act in history will have a direct impact on your own life. Not in a tragic way, but it will dramatically change your career path.
This evening you will have dinner with your housemates and your boyfriend. I know there have been some ups and downs with him and that bitch if an ex-girlfriend recently, but stick with it. He's now out shopping with our son (and she turns out to be really fat)! Sadly the other people you thought would be close friends drift out of your life quite quickly. They are friends for a reason now, but you'll soon learn what real friendship is when you re-discover your school friends in London. University is the "time out" you need from the confusion that boarding school threw at you, but don't hold it against your old friends, they love you and went through exactly the same things at the same time (you just didn't tell each other about it). They will take you back with open arms.
Mummy will be fine. She'll come out harder and stronger than ever
Don't be in a rush to do anything. Life is a marathon, not a sprint. You don't always need to be first, or best. Enjoy the ride. Do things for yourself, not because it's what you think others want (you only wax because your mother criticised shaving for God's sake!). Although saying that, don't stop with the waxing - I'm reaping the rewards now :-)
Dare to be different.
Judge people for what they say and do, not for who they are. This is a lesson best learnt quickly. Don't be a snob.
Get to know your sisters better. And your Grandma. Call them all regularly.
You will get married and have a wonderful day. It won't rain and you won't have a big spot!
Marriage isn't like it is in the films. You will have hard times and you will sometimes question whether you made the right decision. Temptation will test you, but remember what's important to you and know this: your husband is the most kind and loyal one you could wish for and he puts your parenting skills to shame. Not that yours are bad, he's just a legend.
You will conceive your first child on the first attempt, but don't brag about it, even if only to yourself and your husband. There are greater forces at work and they will come back to teach you that lesson when trying for number 2. I can't tell you if that happens or not because we've just had our 7th failed month.
Childbirth is fine, long, very long, but fine.
You will do well at work and at 31 you are still to figure out why. You'll also go back to work after having your son, which will surprise you more than anyone. You love your career, but don't let it run your life.
Spend MUCH less on credit cards, in fact, go and cut them all up now.
I could keep going, but life is an adventure and I don't want to spoil it for you, so in summary:
Be a good friend, be a good mother, be a good daughter and sister and a good lover. Do to those as you would wish to be done unto you. Most of all though, remember, this is life, it's not a rehearsal. No regrets.
Lots of Love, me x
P.S. Stay up the hill for 5 more minutes for sunrise tomorrow morning - I missed a great shot
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