To colour....

As you know, I watched the Sex And The City movie this weekend. I was never a fan when it was on TV, but I felt it was a cult I had missed out on and thought the film would provide a quickie catch up.

Ponder these things as one does, it left me with two questions:

1) How often do most people "colour"
2) How can I get better at "colouring"

Question 1:
Not often enough. Hubby and I lead busy lives, which usually means we're too tired on School nights (my god how bad does that sound?!) I usually go to bed before him, as he stays up and potters around downstairs doing generally bugger all. I'd love to say that we're 2-3 times a week people, but we're just not. When we weren't "trying" I'd be lucky to get it once a month . It's tough, because although you know that 50% of the time it's your fault you're not colouring enough, but it also makes you wonder...

- does he still find me attractive
- did child birth put him off
- has HE got a problem
- is he getting it elsewhere

Question 2:
If I had concerns about my performance at work I'd ask for feedback. So, yesterday, I asked hubby how I could improve in bed. Surprisingly, he was quite open and told me:

- more foreplay (oh the irony)
- more positions (fair)
- more oral (we're married mate...)

Now, I also know that feedback should be a two way process... But did he ask me how HE could improve? I think not. Despite that, I was in bed wearing silky black number by 10pm, obliged him with all of the above and felt bloody wonderful as I drifted off to sleep with him stroking my hair. Which begs to obvious question: why don't we do it more often? Well, yesterday marked the start of a week long colouring fest... Bring it on :-)

I've previously mentioned The British Family that's on BBC2 tonight at 9pm. I think it's going to be interesting and cause some debate in these circles. I have to say though I think it's going to be even more appropriate after reading Jane Shilling's Choice in the Evening Standard this evening

Tonight she's looking at the changing institution of marriage - and what treasures she unearths, including this gem from a 1958 marriage guidance leaflet: "As they grow less shy, many prefer not to wear clothes at all while making love."